The times when you can’t hear from God, and don’t know what to do, those are the times when the heart is being tested. And you can’t know that because the heart doesn’t know it. Of course, then you start grasping, making up things, and hunting for some kind of an answer, when there really is none during that time. He is just trying and testing the heart, so you can move on. He really does care, and has your best interest at heart…but it’s hard to find when suffering is present. It’s part of the way He gets you to come to know Him.